Thanks Hilary.  I appreciate your comment...

Hugs...

Barb Mallut
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-----Original Message-----
From: Hilary Blue <[log in to unmask]>
To: [log in to unmask] <[log in to unmask]>
Date: Wednesday, July 12, 2000 1:20 AM
Subject: Re: doubting Thomas


>barb, you shame me with your warmth and consideration and
understanding!!!!!!!
>hilary
>
>Barb_MSN wrote:
>>
>> Hi Alf.....
>>
>> While I'm not a caregiver, I've had PD for almost 26 years.
Also,
>> I've got 7 years on ya and do NOT consider myself as "old."
>> <smile>
>>
>> I suspect your wife's reference to any symptoms you've
mentioned
>> in her presence as being AGE related instead of possibly being
PD
>> related is HER way of  showing her denial of your diagnosis.
>>
>> It sounds like you've got a healthy curiosity about what's
>> happening to your body, and that will benefit you in the
future.
>>
>> Just remember when it comes to a major illness such as we have,
>> your wife is entitled to her own thoughts, feelings, and fears
>> about what YOU'RE going thru as well as what SHE is going thru
>> because of the sudden intrusion into her life, and her marriage
of
>> this steeeeeenkin' disease.
>>
>> Hang in there....
>>
>> Barb Mallut
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>>
>> -----Original Message-----
>> From: Alf Cousins <[log in to unmask]>
>> To: [log in to unmask]
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>> Date: Wednesday, July 12, 2000 12:02 AM
>> Subject: doubting Thomas
>>
>> >I know caregivers must have a difficult time, finding their
lives
>> turned
>> >upside down, especially after years of effort, but how do I
deal
>> with my
>> >wife (I'm not modern enough to call her a 'significant other')
>> who responds
>> >to every report of my condition with a "that's probably just
>> because of your
>> >age". I'm 50, I've had the symptoms for nearly two years, got
a
>> firm
>> >diagnosis from a Neurologist about two months ago. OK, so it's
>> early days
>> >and I don't need meds, and the tremor etc doesn't get in the
way
>> of doing
>> >things. But I notice changes which I also read about in forums
>> like this
>> >one, like vivid dreams, blurred vision, loss of smell, and so
on.
>> I have to
>> >say, I'm acutely aware of becoming a hypochondriac (-you know,
>> the best way
>> >to make your family ill? Buy them a medical book for Xmas!)
So, I
>> kinda note
>> >the new symptoms with the same interest as, I imagine, a
pregnant
>> woman
>> >notes the subtle changes in her body. One day the bump is
going
>> to be
>> >obvious to everyone. But for now, when I report some new
>> observation I'd
>> >like the conversation to be about the possibility that it may
be
>> related to
>> >PD, not have it dismissed as "Look you're getting older, you
>> might have
>> >expected this to happen anyway..." Am I being unfair, am I
>> missing
>> >something.... any caregivers out there who want to fire an
>> opinion my way.
>> >Alf
>> >50/<1/2