Dear Hilary and friends,

You have said exactly what I feel,  Why should I  be put
away in a female-dominated residence at age 50?  And what about this:
the average age of the local nursing home is 88.8!

I am not a war veteran-always was and will be opposed to war.
So no "veterans home" would accept me, thank you.

Plus, my own HOUSE is a fully acceptable
place to live.

Ivan
:-)
50/39/36



On Tue, 22 Aug 2000 20:21:24 -0400 Hilary Blue <[log in to unmask]> writes:
> i think that those homes you are talking about sound wonderful - when
> you are
> 80 years old.
> but i have no interest in getting my hair dyed blue and set on
> rollers every
> week. nor do i  have the family to come visit me and to make sure i
> am being
> well cared for.
>  i do have a home health aide who works part time in one of the
> better nursing
> homes in the area,
> and she came to me the other day , very upset, because she did not
> know who to
> turn to;.
>  on the one hand , she was afraid to lose her job, on the other she
> felt it
> was her duty  as a religious, caring woman, to report to "somebody"
> how the
> patients were being mistreated. in little subtle ways. like baling
> scolded and
> shamed in front of other residents for accidents of urinary
> incontinence - and
> left in wet clothes for hours. And many other incidents that an old
> lady would
> be ashamed to report to her family...
> so on these two grounds - age incompatibility, and small scale
> maltreatment of
> patients - i think that i am not ready for that kind of life - not
> yet. maybe
> when i am 80 i will feel differently about it.
>
> hilary blue
> 51,33,24
>
> Leo Fuhr wrote:
> >
> > Like Nita, our family placed my mom in a nursing home in July.  We
> had been
> > researching and checking on the homes in the area and the one we
> chose is
> > an excellent facility and mom is doing very well there. s of the
> home.
> >
> > Checking out facilities, visiting often, asking questions of
> present
> > residents and their families, asking questions of the
> administrators, the
> > nursing staff and the other staff is important.  Praising the
> things/people
> > who are doing a good job is a good way to guarantee the right
> treatment of
> > your family member.  Complaining about poor care is also necessary
> and
> > should be taken to the charge nurse, housekeeping, etc.
> >
> >
> > ----------
> > As it turned out, she was happier and less afraid there. She
> > too had hallucinations, though she did not have PD. I never
> > in my live did anything better for her. There were many
> > people there some in reasonably good shape and some not. The
> > thing that seems most important now was the companionship
> > and entertainment  she had there. It was good for her to
> > have company and something to do. I thought I would just
> > throw this in the discussion , because it worked out better
> > than I expected. I think it was the research I did that
> > helped.
> >
> > Nita Andres
> > CG David

^^^^^^  WARM GREETINGS  FROM  ^^^^^^^^^^^^  :-)
 Ivan Suzman        50/39/36       [log in to unmask]      :-)
 Portland, Maine    land of lighthouses           deg. F   :-)
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