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		PARKINSN September 1997, Week 4
Subject:
PD, Divorce & The Whole Darned Thing
From:
3putts <[log in to unmask]>
Reply-To:
Parkinson's Information Exchange <[log in to unmask]>
Date:
Fri, 26 Sep 1997 23:39:24 -0400
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Barb,

Very well spoken.
>From the day PD entered OUR marriage we have looked at it as a third, =
uninvited, unwanted, "visitor".  It sleeps with us, eats with us, goes =
everywhere with us.   Neither one of us (Bob w/PD) want it here; but NO =
ONE or ANYTHING would scare me away from the person I love, so it's the =
three of us now. And that's just the way it is.  I also know that if I =
were sick Bob would stick by me too.

P.S. Re: Cyber Reunion -- we like the sound of Vegas too.

Jackie & Bob

>I believe as awful as this disease is to US, it's JUST AS AWFUL for our
>respective spouses, life-partners, etc!!!  Just "different-awful...." =
for
>THEM.
>
>How many of US would give everything we've got to wake up one day and
>be RID of the damn PD? =20
>
>
>It takes a very special partner to hang in there for the long haul, AND =
a very
>special relationship.  If the love that was there at the beginning has =
long
>since been eroded by the many other things that can undermine the =
foundations
>of a marriage, why then would you expect your spouse to continue living =
in the
>same house with you in a caregiver role year after
>year after endless year?
>
>
>It's bad enough that I'M held prisoner by the PD - I sure don't want to =
be
>someone ELSES jailer ALONG with my disease putting them in that role.
>
>Barb Mallut
>[log in to unmask]
>
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<P><FONT face=3DArial size=3D2>Barb,<BR><BR>Very well spoken.<BR>From =
the day PD=20
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unwanted,=20
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ANYTHING would scare me away from the person I love, so it's the three =
of us=20
now. And that's just the way it is.&nbsp; I also know that if I were =
sick Bob=20
would stick by me too.<BR><BR>P.S. Re: Cyber Reunion -- we like the =
sound of=20
Vegas too.<BR><BR>Jackie &amp; Bob<BR></FONT><FONT size=3D2><BR>&gt;I =
believe as=20
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our<BR>&gt;respective=20
spouses, life-partners, etc!!!&nbsp; Just =
&quot;different-awful....&quot;=20
for<BR>&gt;THEM.<BR>&gt;<BR>&gt;How many of US would give everything =
we've got=20
to wake up one day and<BR>&gt;be RID of the damn PD?&nbsp;=20
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for the=20
long haul, AND a very<BR>&gt;special relationship.&nbsp; If the love =
that was=20
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other=20
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I sure don't want to be<BR>&gt;someone ELSES jailer ALONG with my =
disease=20
putting them in that role.<BR>&gt;<BR>&gt;Barb Mallut<BR>&gt;<A=20
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