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This is pretty personal stuff and I don't know if I should be sharing this, but I figure you guys could help more than anyone else... My father has late-stage Parkinson's, at least I assume it is. He has dementia now and does a lot of things "normal" people wouldn't do. He has shook my mom, he has tried to pee on practically everything, along with hallucinations and more normal things with Parkinson's, like his muscles tensing on him where he can't walk and he has trouble forming what he wants to say into sentences. the problem is, I don't think my mom understands what the dementia is doing to him, and yells at him constantly, or at least she doesn't want to understand. i have tried explaining to her many times about how things are not really in his control, but I can't get through. She just says it is just so frustrating and puts on the poor me act, when it is my father who has Parkinson's! It hurts to see them like this, and I left the other day because I couldn't take the yeling any more. My mom told my dad tonight that it would be his fault if I left, when she is the one yelling! I told him in front of her it wasn't because of him...we have tried to get them to counseling, but my mom insists she doesn't need to go. I have quit activities at school to go to Parkinson's meetings with them, and she makes up excuses every week for that,too. I just don't know what to do, what can help make this better. i don't know what else to do and I can't stand being here-I don't sleep at all here because she is up yelling at him for everything he does, yelling at him when his legs freeze up and he can't move that "(he) isn't trying" We just really need any advice/support you can give us right now...