Linnea - You and your family are really having a difficult time of it right now. My first suggestion to you would be to join the CARE list, which is for caregivers of Parkinsonians. You'll find a number of people on the list dealing with similar problems. If you'd like, I'll send instructions for joining. Your father isn't the only late-stage PWP with dementia who is relieving himself in inappropriate places and having hallucinations, etc. You didn't mention whether your father sees a movement disorder specialist, but if not, it would be extremely helpful if you could find one. Parkinson's dementia can be helped considerably by new drugs such as Clozaril and Seroquel. Your mother sounds like she's at her wits' end, and I don't blame her. It's extremely difficult to deal with the behavior you describe. No doubt her store of patience is long gone. It's not uncommon to think, at least part of the time, that the PWP could do better if he'd just *try*. At this point, unless your father's behavior can be improved with the drugs I've mentioned, I'd guess it's time to be looking into nursing homes. Your mother and father, both, could be in danger from your father's behavior, and it sounds as if your mother isn't able to cope anymore. She's not to be blamed for that. It also sounds as if your life has been profoundly affected, and the two of you together still aren't able to handle your father's illness. That's not uncommon at this stage of your father's PD, unless medication changes can improve his condition considerably. Do check out the CARE list, where you'll get lots of practical advice and loving support from people who have been there, done that. Margie Swindler cg for Dick, 55/18 << My father has late-stage Parkinson's, at least I assume it is. He has dementia now and does a lot of things "normal" people wouldn't do. He has shook my mom, he has tried to pee on practically everything, along with hallucinations and more normal things with Parkinson's, like his muscles tensing on him where he can't walk and he has trouble forming what he wants to say into sentences. the problem is, I don't think my mom understands what the dementia is doing to him, and yells at him constantly, or at least she doesn't want to understand. i have tried explaining to her many times about how things are not really in his control, but I can't get through. She just says it is just so frustrating and puts on the poor me act, when it is my father who has Parkinson's! It hurts to see them like this, and I left the other day because I couldn't take the yeling any more. My mom told my dad tonight that it would be his fault if I left, when she is the one yelling! I told him in front of her it wasn't because of him...we have tried to get them to counseling, but my mom insists she doesn't need to go. I have quit activities at school to go to Parkinson's meetings with them, and she makes up excuses every week for that,too. I just don't know what to do, what can help make this better. i don't know what else to do and I can't stand being here-I don't sleep at all here because she is up yelling at him for everything he does, yelling at him when his legs freeze up and he can't move that "(he) isn't trying" We just really need any advice/support you can give us right now... >>