Dear Cari--- Please think very seriously about the reply you got from
Margie Swindler---I feel she was "right on" in her analysis of your
parents' situation, and made some very helpful suggestions.
On the other hand, I can certainly understand your frustration, anger and
despair in this situation where you can *see* a different view of things
than your mother can, and it is hard not to blame her for her limited
perspective.
I wonder if her failure to ask her doctors about the symptoms she has may
not be due to fear and denial --you say she is scared about the 3/31 neuro
appointment, and may fear she also has PD --of course she's afraid, and you
must be too ! She must be terrified to imagine what would happen to both
of them, should she also be really ill, for as a CG that is the "monster in
the closet " we ( and our PWPs) all fear.
From your experience on the CARE list you are aware of some of the issues
CGs deal with, but when they hit us on a gut level, it's different from
just intellectualizing about them..... having the "will" doesn't always do
it, sad to say. I hope you will find the strength to support your mother
through the anxious time till her appointment, and afterwards, whatever the
outcome may be. And continue to update us about their situation. You are
"the Caregiver's CG", and that's not an easy spot to be in, but it sounds
as if they BOTH need you, whether they admit it or not.
Hang in there, and keep us posted----
Camilla Flintermann, CG for Peter 81/70/55
Oxford, Ohio
http://www.newcountry.nu/pd/members/camilla/one.htm
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Caregivers of Parkinsonians ! "
