Marjorie, I certainly agree with you. No one should be subjected to any kind of abuse. I believe I stated that fairly clearly. I certainly would not wish any dibilitating illness on anyone.I only wanted to let I van know what a caregiver is supposed to do and that the behavior he described certainly was NOT acceptable. A caregiver is to take care of the patients needs, plus it shouls be done with a bit of caring. Juanita