Camilla, you are so right. We really are all victims with this terrible disease.I do applaud Ivan for resolving the issue rationally. My whole point was simply to state what in a perfect world is the responsibility of a trained CNA. There is always stress in caring for someone. Whether paid or otherwise. I really was not trying to start any type of competition over who has the toughest job. Hugs to all of us. Juanita Cg for George 74dx98