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Dear List members, This topic is of great interest to me too. Bob and I (especially me) are anguishing about whether we should move or not. Like many on the list, we have put a great amount of money and attention into our current home which we thought would suit us "for ever" but I especially find it getting too much, even though it is a front villa with a little yard. We took out the lawn - even the verge - and planted shrubs, thinking they would be easier than lawn, but they need weeding, pruning, etc, and Bob is not doing much anymore (although he could but he seems to lack motivation, energy, etc) We HAVE moved twice already, since Bob was diagnosed. The first time from an acre on a creek (with the high ladder work involved in house maintenance) to a flat half acre - both in the hills which we were reluctant to leave. Poured money into both places! We are now, after almost four years feeling part of our community here and enjoying being just a few minutes from the beautiful beach and our daughter. So, we want to stay in this area, but the supported type of communities which offer home maintenance, 24 hour help, etc are not being built in this area. Moving would involve getting rid of much treasured tools (Overseas son says "don't sell the tools!") and yards and yards of books. And what about our toy poodle??? Others who have made the move say it's great, they wish they had done it sooner. We HAVE looked at many places and I feel too young at 55 to consider going to one, BUT Bob would benefit from the facilities. One thing we consider is maybe moving to an appartment (not necessarily in a community which would mean big monthly fees) which is near a hostel, nursing home. And also considering moving to another part of the city near where there are medical specialists who are skilled in treating PD and who have set up a good knowledge base at two hospitals - one private. This is at least an hour from where we currently live. I appreciate hearing others talking about this topic, because strangely, it is an area where there is not much help available. Thanks for listening JOY Graham (CG Bob 60, 11 yrs)