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What is cd? -----Original Message----- From: janet paterson [mailto:[log in to unmask]] Sent: Wednesday, July 12, 2000 8:17 AM To: [log in to unmask] Subject: Re: doubting Thomas / questioning thomasina At 05:17 AM 2000/07/12 -0400, hilary wrote: >your first statement says it all - but i come to that from the opposite >direction - my pd is not new, but my significant other is. And i use that >term advisedly, because this is not my spouse - yet, or maybe never - the >relationship is too new to determine that. but we are close enuuff for my >sleep habits to become an issue. >this is a very delicate subject, but an important one. Dealing with a new, >intense relationship is a problem for anyone at my age, i should think - i am >51 and have been widowed for 6 years. I have no caregiver. and i do not want >my significant other (s.o.) to think i seek this relationship merely because i >need a cg.! but of course, it would be nice to have a partner who as well as >loving me, would take care of me when that time of need arrives - and lately >that time appears to be approaching. Is my fear of the future alone >contaminating this relationship in any way, or is it the real thing? I think >the latter, but how do i convince my s.o.? And how do i accept the proffered >help, which i need, without it becoming the focal point of the relationship? > >yours, in love - and in a quandary >hilary > >Alf Cousins wrote: >> >> I know caregivers must have a difficult time, finding their lives turned >> upside down, especially after years of effort, but how do I deal with my >> wife (I'm not modern enough to call her a 'significant other')........p i'm an 'outsider' to long term committed sleeping partner type relationships never really had one but my reaction here is 'what you see is what you get' here and now my love may be hit by a truck tomorrow i may be cured of pd in two years we both might get food poisoning in three years if i see the focal point as my needing help or needing to learn to accept the proffered help then that is what i will get if i restrict my loving communication to the physical aspects only then that's what i will be limited by my loving someone is in my head my ideas my mind where there are no limits i am not only pd i am not only cd i am not only a body and neither are you janet janet paterson 53 now / 41 dx pd / 37 onset pd / 44 dx cd / 43 onset cd tel: 613 256 8340 url: "http://www.geocities.com/janet313/" email: "[log in to unmask]" smail: PO Box 171 Almonte Ontario K0A 1A0 Canada