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hilary love is such a leveller enjoy the exciting possibility you have we dance with a group of aging individuals in all states of health and stages of relationships i see love as such a wonderful life giving force no matter how old or young or infirm or thin or fat or whatever do enjoy your newfound experience and keep us discretely posted judy >From: Hilary Blue <[log in to unmask]> >Reply-To: Parkinson's Information Exchange Network ><[log in to unmask]> >To: [log in to unmask] >Subject: Re: doubting Thomas >Date: Wed, 12 Jul 2000 05:17:09 -0400 > >your first statement says it all - but i come to that from the opposite >direction - my pd is not new, but my significant other is. And i use that >term advisedly, because this is not my spouse - yet, or maybe never - the >relationship is too new to determine that. but we are close enuuff for my >sleep habits to become an issue. >this is a very delicate subject, but an important one. Dealing with a new, >intense relationship is a problem for anyone at my age, i should think - i >am >51 and have been widowed for 6 years. I have no caregiver. and i do not >want >my significant other (s.o.) to think i seek this relationship merely >because i >need a cg.! but of course, it would be nice to have a partner who as well >as >loving me, would take care of me when that time of need arrives - and >lately >that time appears to be approaching. Is my fear of the future alone >contaminating this relationship in any way, or is it the real thing? I >think >the latter, but how do i convince my s.o.? And how do i accept the >proffered >help, which i need, without it becoming the focal point of the >relationship? > >yours, in love - and in a quandary >hilary > >Alf Cousins wrote: > > > > I know caregivers must have a difficult time, finding their lives turned > > upside down, especially after years of effort, but how do I deal with my > > wife (I'm not modern enough to call her a 'significant other')........p ________________________________________________________________________ Get Your Private, Free E-mail from MSN Hotmail at http://www.hotmail.com