i would respond to every conmment or complaint about herself, for the next few days with a sweet "i guess you have reached that time of life, my dear" and then when she objects, tell her that is how you feel . i guess that is a rather unfair retort - but maybe its because i've reached that time of life...... hilary blue (51/33/24) Alf Cousins wrote: > > I know caregivers must have a difficult time, finding their lives turned > upside down, especially after years of effort, but how do I deal with my > wife (I'm not modern enough to call her a 'significant other') who responds > to every report of my condition with a "that's probably just because of your > age". I'm 50, ...........e