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It's one of those little record things you put on to hear music. Either that or Clinical Depression. Greg 47/35/35 ----- Original Message ----- From: "Fleming, Jennifer" <[log in to unmask]> To: <[log in to unmask]> Sent: Wednesday, July 12, 2000 12:15 PM Subject: Re: doubting Thomas / questioning thomasina > What is cd? > > -----Original Message----- > From: janet paterson [mailto:[log in to unmask]] > Sent: Wednesday, July 12, 2000 8:17 AM > To: [log in to unmask] > Subject: Re: doubting Thomas / questioning thomasina > > > At 05:17 AM 2000/07/12 -0400, hilary wrote: > >your first statement says it all - but i come to that from the opposite > >direction - my pd is not new, but my significant other is. And i use that > >term advisedly, because this is not my spouse - yet, or maybe never - the > >relationship is too new to determine that. but we are close enuuff for my > >sleep habits to become an issue. > >this is a very delicate subject, but an important one. Dealing with a new, > >intense relationship is a problem for anyone at my age, i should think - i > am > >51 and have been widowed for 6 years. I have no caregiver. and i do not > want > >my significant other (s.o.) to think i seek this relationship merely > because i > >need a cg.! but of course, it would be nice to have a partner who as well > as > >loving me, would take care of me when that time of need arrives - and > lately > >that time appears to be approaching. Is my fear of the future alone > >contaminating this relationship in any way, or is it the real thing? I > think > >the latter, but how do i convince my s.o.? And how do i accept the > proffered > >help, which i need, without it becoming the focal point of the > relationship? > > > >yours, in love - and in a quandary > >hilary > > > >Alf Cousins wrote: > >> > >> I know caregivers must have a difficult time, finding their lives turned > >> upside down, especially after years of effort, but how do I deal with my > >> wife (I'm not modern enough to call her a 'significant other')........p > > > i'm an 'outsider' to long term committed sleeping partner type relationships > never really had one > but > my reaction here is > 'what you see is what you get' > here and now > > my love > may be hit by a truck tomorrow > i may be cured of pd in two years > we both might get food poisoning in three years > > if i see the focal point as my needing help > or needing to learn to accept the proffered help > then that is what i will get > > if i restrict my loving communication to the physical aspects only > then that's what i will be limited by > > my loving someone is in my head my ideas my mind > where there are no limits > > i am not only pd > i am not only cd > i am not only a body > > and neither are you > > janet > > janet paterson > 53 now / 41 dx pd / 37 onset pd / 44 dx cd / 43 onset cd > tel: 613 256 8340 url: "http://www.geocities.com/janet313/" > email: "[log in to unmask]" smail: PO Box 171 Almonte Ontario K0A 1A0 > Canada >