you guys are the best! it's like a wonderful line of people handing buckets of water from body to body to put out a fire! it's not so much a matter of overmedication as it is knowing "exactly" what daddy's getting and when - as much as i hate to admit it - i'm now crying and upset because my mom will simply not start and finish anything - she calls me "complaining" about the situation, not so much in distress, as upset, expects me to - what, comfort her rather than address the problem? anyway - we just went over all that's going on and, as usual, she gets to a point and says "she just can't do anymore and she has to go lie down" - and sorry, but at that point, i hung up on her and now i'm hysterical. . . it's just too pathetic! but it will be okay cari