 |
 |
You are absolutely right!!! Regards DaveSA PWP 46/Dx44/Since40 http://skybusiness.com/rollpaces >------------ opportunity knocks -----------< >-- sign up for a great business opportunity --< ----- Original Message ----- From: "Charles E Murray" <[log in to unmask]> To: <[log in to unmask]> Sent: Monday, August 14, 2000 4:37 PM Subject: Re: Silence > I want to express appreciation to those who have had nothing to say and > no opinion to offer in the last few days. I learn from you. > > I spent most of my life arguing for a living and don't remember ever > having the other person acknowledge that I had won the argument. > Bystanders maybe; the person I was "debating" with, never. I was told > once or twice that I was intimidating, but never did I hear the person(s) > I was arguing with utter those three words humans want most to hear, > "Your absolutely right." > (These days I say this to my wife once in a while just to watch her > reaction!) > > To those who have been carrying on the spirited discussion, my thanks as > well. When I was diagnosed a year ago I turned off my TV and haven't > turned it back on, nor have I spent more that a few minutes in the > intervening months reading newspapers. The fact that I have been reading > all the posts tells me my ego has become frustrated with all this peace, > acceptance and love stuff the other part of me has been working on. My > ego always has and always will want to keep me separate through judgment > of and conflict with others, using expectations as its justification. > (My expectations are always justified; yours? Never. If you question > this, ask yourself when you last admitted your anger was not justified or > the other person's was.) > > I learned right away that stress isn't good for PWP. I already knew that > being right seldom leads to happiness because everyone else thinks they > are and conflict is inevitable. Conflict is stressful, hence, I have > renewed my commitment to being happy rather than right, and I totally > believe one cannot have both at the same time (but I won't argue the > point!). > > So again my thanks to all of you, participants and silent ones alike. > You are all teachers. Anyone in need of a waterboy? > > Love > Chuck >