Everyone, including all who share on this list, are teachers. I heard a wise man describe the only problem in life, and to him it was the feeling of conscious separation; separation from self, God and others. Consequently, the solution is clear, and that is conscious contact or unity with God, self and others. Most of my life has been spent comparing myself with others, and it was amazing how often my beliefs and judgments were justified and how often yours were not. No amount of being right, however, brought me closer to feeling connected with God, self and others. In fact, the opposite was true, and I was not a happy person. I was angry and resentful much of the time, and didn't know until much later that this state of mind was not happiness. Twenty years ago I was asked to name 5 things I liked about myself by a group therapist. I puzzled, thought, and finally asked if I could have overnight to think about it. By the next morning's session I still could not come up with one thing. Odd that it didn't occur to me to list the fact that I was right about everything at all times. There was a clue in there somewhere. Today I am a happy person, albeit one with PD, because I began seeing others as my teachers, some as to what to do, others as to what not to do. Today I am loving, kind, loyal, helpful and responsible (I might think of more than five, but you get the point). What you have taught me is that as long as I focus my mental efforts on unconditional acceptance (which I believe to be an attribute of Love), and work at letting go of expectations (or at least realizing mine are not superior to yours), at those times I feel I am a valuable and valued part of the whole that Is, a wondrous sense of being connected to God, you and myself. Today I don't know if I am ever right, since I don't have a clue about the greater scheme of things, so I just assume three attitudes. First, I assume each of us is doing our best at any given moment, with the tools at our disposal. Second, I believe that in everything you and I do and say, we are either giving love or asking for it. Finally, I assume nothing happens in God's world by mistake, that all things have a purpose. When I do get judgmental, the default question I ask myself is do I want to be happy or do I want to be right, because for me the two states of mind cannot coexist. (Sometimes, Heaven help me, I hang on to right until the pain gets boring.) So thanks to all who contribute. This may be selfish, but the more spirited the exchange, the more I learn. Love Chuck