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i think that those homes you are talking about sound wonderful - when you are 80 years old. but i have no interest in getting my hair dyed blue and set on rollers every week. nor do i have the family to come visit me and to make sure i am being well cared for. i do have a home health aide who works part time in one of the better nursing homes in the area, and she came to me the other day , very upset, because she did not know who to turn to;. on the one hand , she was afraid to lose her job, on the other she felt it was her duty as a religious, caring woman, to report to "somebody" how the patients were being mistreated. in little subtle ways. like baling scolded and shamed in front of other residents for accidents of urinary incontinence - and left in wet clothes for hours. And many other incidents that an old lady would be ashamed to report to her family... so on these two grounds - age incompatibility, and small scale maltreatment of patients - i think that i am not ready for that kind of life - not yet. maybe when i am 80 i will feel differently about it. hilary blue 51,33,24 Leo Fuhr wrote: > > Like Nita, our family placed my mom in a nursing home in July. We had been > researching and checking on the homes in the area and the one we chose is > an excellent facility and mom is doing very well there. s of the home. > > Checking out facilities, visiting often, asking questions of present > residents and their families, asking questions of the administrators, the > nursing staff and the other staff is important. Praising the things/people > who are doing a good job is a good way to guarantee the right treatment of > your family member. Complaining about poor care is also necessary and > should be taken to the charge nurse, housekeeping, etc. > > > ---------- > As it turned out, she was happier and less afraid there. She > too had hallucinations, though she did not have PD. I never > in my live did anything better for her. There were many > people there some in reasonably good shape and some not. The > thing that seems most important now was the companionship > and entertainment she had there. It was good for her to > have company and something to do. I thought I would just > throw this in the discussion , because it worked out better > than I expected. I think it was the research I did that > helped. > > Nita Andres > CG David