In a message dated 9/13/00 7:22:53 AM EST, [log in to unmask] writes: << Barbara brought out a fine pointL it is wise to have a few familiar items with a patient in the nursing home >> Mom's room at the nursing home had a bulletin board and I put up pictures of the great-grands (my niece sent me new pics of the twins through e-mail). I put any cards she got on the board, too. I also made sure there were framed pictures on her nightstand and a tin full of her favorite candies. Most of the rooms had a wreath or some other kind of decoration on their doors, so I got a wreath for Mom's door. There are lots of little things you can do to make Harry's room comfortable and familiar for him. You know you've made the right decision for both of you. Your time together will be better now that you can relax and let someone else do the everyday things that Harry needs. Good luck to both of you. At church Sunday, we were given "prayer dots" (round stickers) to serve as a reminder to pray when we see them. If I could figure out a way to do it, I'd send you one, but since I can't I'll just send a prayer. Remember, there are angels all around you looking after you and Harry. Wishing the best for both of you, Eleanor