The lonely plight of the family caregiver
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Where Is the Mango Princess?
By Cathy
Crimmins
Alfred A. Knopf. 257 pp. $24
Always on
Call
When Illness Turns Families Into Caregivers
Edited
by Carol Levine
United Hospital Fund. 213 pp. $20
Reviewed by
Suzanne Gordon
Here's an idea for a sequel to
Survivor.
Sixteen people are sequestered in their own homes in a
Philadelphia neighborhood. They include a 40-year-old woman taking care of a
husband who suffered a traumatic brain injury after falling off a ladder; a
35-year-old man taking care of a wife paralyzed from the waist down in a car
accident; a 55-year-old daughter caring for a mother dying a slow death from
brain cancer; and a 59-year-old son taking care of a widowed father who has just
had a major stroke.
Added to the mix is a 75-year-old woman with diabetes
- and a heart condition and no children - caring for an 80-year-old husband with
Alzheimer's, and an 85-year-old man taking care of a wife crippled with
arthritis.
None of them gets any help from the medical system, private
health insurance companies, or Medicare or Medicaid.
When the segment is
over, the surviving family caregiver doesn't get - or want - a million bucks. He
or she wants understanding from the system, plus free, unlimited home-care
services from aides and registered nurses.
Not to worry, you'll never
have to watch this ordeal on prime-time TV. Which is why books such as Cathy
Crimmins' personal account and Carol Levine's edited collection are so
important. They document the suffering this nation inflicts on its 25 million
family caregivers.
Although American politicians and conservative
moralists love to preach family values, family caregivers, instead of being
rewarded, are consistently denied the education, assistance and respite they
need.
Humor writer Cathy Crimmins discovered this when her husband, Alan
Forman, an attorney at a large bank in Philadelphia, was smashed on the head by
a motorboat on a lake in Canada in 1996. He spent five days in a coma in a
Canadian hospital. There, with the exception of one bad-apple doctor, Forman
received excellent care.
Crimmins' real problems began when her husband
woke up with severe damage to the part of his brain that governs speech, memory,
movement and personality, and had to be moved back to the United
States.
Although this brave book was not written as a policy document, it
should be required reading for anyone who thinks single-payer, universal
health-care systems are inferior to ours and who still believes managed care
actually works.
"I am now a convert to socialized medicine,"
Crimmins writes in her present-tense account. (The title Where Is the Mango
Princess? is a meaningless question her husband uttered after his accident.)
"The national health care system up here [in Canada] means that no one has
hassled me about Alan's care; he gets what any brain injury patient in Canada is
entitled to."
On the other hand, "as soon as we land [in the
United States], the HMO vultures will be circling, looking for any way possible
to turn down our benefits."
While Crimmins anguished about her
husband's condition, insurance cost-cutters refused to provide quality
air-ambulance service back to the States. They sent a poorly equipped,
rinky-dink plane with no nurses on board, and the trip may have exacerbated his
injury. Back in Philadelphia, after Forman's initial stay at the Hospital of the
University of Pennsylvania, his HMO gave him only 21 days in a rehab hospital.
Utilization reviewers, whose only priority was the bottom line, harassed social
workers, nurses, doctors, rehab counselors.
Tying second in the
callousness competition was her husband's employer. After a heroic struggle, Al
Forman was able to return to work as a bank attorney. Rehab counselors and
physicians advised his employers that Forman would be incapable of full-time
work. In spite of this, Crimmins writes, "the pressure for Al to return
full-time never lets up. I admit to becoming bitter: If Alan had never returned
to work, the bank would have been forced to pay three-quarters of his salary in
disability benefits for life."
Instead, in a particularly cynical
move, the bank finally laid Forman off, "supposedly in an across-the-board
reduction-in-force initiative."
Crimmins' book is not a political
tract. Indeed, moments of great comic relief punctuate poignant descriptions of
her trials as she tries to "balance being a caregiver and being a
mom." She talks openly about her husband's "physical clumsiness,"
his inappropriateness (he can no longer even figure out what outfit to wear to a
party or to work), and, worst of all, the terrible daily rages that are so often
the result of brain trauma.
Although she is thrilled that her husband
made it, she courageously admits that he is not the man she chose and married.
"I miss Alan's eyes," Crimmins writes. "His old eyes. The ones
that were connected to his original brain. They had a sparkle that's missing
now. 'The eyes are the window of the soul,' goes the saying. Is Al's soul
different? When I look into his post-TBI [traumatic brain injury] eyes, they
seem dull, almost zombie-like. I keep a set of snapshots of the old Al in my
office; each time I take them out, his former gaze captures me once
again."
Always on Call is a perfect companion volume to Where Is the
Mango Princess? It provides useful advice to anyone who ever has been or will be
a family caregiver, and it adds insights and policy suggestions that should
enrich the broader health-care debate in this country.
The book begins
with seven personal essays written by family caregivers. The book's editor,
Carol Levine, describes her 10-year saga of caring for a husband left with major
personality changes after a car accident. That essay and another, cowritten with
Connie Zuckerman and titled "The Trouble With Families," spotlight how
members of the so-called helping professions often misunderstand and even
demonize the families who bear the major burden of the care of the chronically
ill.
In another heart-wrenching essay, Gladys Gonzalez-Ramos, a social
work professor, narrates the struggle of her Cuban refugee father to care for a
wife with Parkinson's disease.
The second half of the book is devoted to
policy explorations. There is an excellent discussion of the economic losses
American employers suffer because they refuse to help their employees fulfill
their responsibilities to sick relatives. (Someone should send this book to the
chief executive officer of Al Forman's bank.) Another essay catalogs the
financial costs and economic contributions that families shoulder and provide
when they care for a loved one. A complementary chapter explains how insurers
and professional caregivers can provide family caregivers the support they so
desperately need.
In "The Trouble With Families," Levine and
Zuckerman succinctly present the problem and provide a blueprint for a solution.
"A system that saves or prolongs lives only to cast patients and families
into the abyss of fragmented chronic care and financial and emotional ruin,
while at the same time criticizing them for being 'too emotional,' is
unjust," they write. "Many families are willing to make enormous
sacrifices, but martyrdom is not a good basis for health care policy or
practice. When families are pushed beyond their limits, the patient's care is
jeopardized, the caregiver's health is at risk, professionals are frustrated,
and the health care system is burdened by greater costs."
And here's
the million-dollar question: Will the survivor of this year's presidential race
have the wit to pay attention to a family caregiving crisis that will only
escalate as our population ages and our medical system produces more and more
miracle "cures"?