Janet, I think I must have missed the point of concern that you expressed today and the last time about internet emails vs telephone contacts. What difference does it make who someone claims he/she is or not in an email, as long as it isn't costing anything of value? I dont see why the fuss as this was made especially if it is as you say, been a while that you or someone has been contacting or reading posts from one of them or more. It seems to me that the telephone contact says little more about anyone than that it gives direct access to ones free time. It also is a way to learn one's home address a lot easier than any internet connection could. The authorities constantly tell women especially to keep private information private; ie address and telephone numbers. I can understand why so many women do that and do insist on having an unlisted telephone number. *seattle* Audrey friend of pwp Aussie John 49/42/38?