Dear Audrey, You said, "...the only exceptions were my close list friends who did comment. Now is that oversight due to fear of her or a silent acknowledgment that there is no equal concern for all? Or does it really depend upon whom it is directed towards and who directs it ? " I'm sorry to see when anyone leaves the PIEN. I do not read most of the posts. I am on a tight time budget so I mainly restrict my reading of the posts in which the title catches my eye. Rarely do I read the "jokes" or personal debates. You have a valid point. --- So does Bob. It reminds of a major fight I had with my late wife. We were both furious and weren't speaking to each other -- I had forgotten why I was angry -- just knew I was steaming. She broke the tension of the moment, by bringing home a card. On the face of the card it showed a drop of water and the word, "DROP." When I opened the card, it said, "DEAD" with a picture of a man flat on his back. I laughed, she laughed and I bought her a gremlin with a sign that said, "We need each other." That was over twenty years ago. That's my motto today -- WE NEED EACH OTHER, I don't wish to take sides in this dispute, but had I taken umbrage at her card suggesting I "Drop Dead." I might have divorced the greatest lady in the world. I hope none of our participants feel they must divorce themselves from our little network. I wish you and Bob and all those on the PIEN (and include those who dropped out) a peaceful resolution to this entire matter. i sincerely believe: WE NEED EACH OTHER! Sid