Pauline - Is the fact that David is shutting you out because of his illness and his withdrawing? From the various support groups I've attended, it seems some of the PWP's hate their situation so much, and some of them blame it on their past, and some are resentful of the fact that their spouse is in good health and able to provide when they can't. I can't make any suggestions because I don't live with my PWP, but so far, he doesn't exhibit any withdrawing or blame that I know of. He is just him, and very caring and understanding and loving. Best to you. Jo Ann