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Jo Ann, You are much too compassionate a person to be a Texan. Why don't you come to Pennsylvania and spread some of that TLC around? lol Greg 48/35/35 ----- Original Message ----- From: "Jo Ann Coen" <[log in to unmask]> To: <[log in to unmask]> Sent: Thursday, January 25, 2001 12:48 PM Subject: Re: support > Marco - I attend 2 Parkinson's support groups occasionally. I don't have > it, but my love does. I've heard many comments from PWP's - more from men > than from women- that their spouses have "shut them out". Not so much > from denial, but from shame. One man said his wife won't even go to > Church at the same service he attends. I would never turn my back on my > love. In fact, I ask him to take me various places, because I love him - > that person inside of that deteriorating body. So what if he has to use > a cane. So what if his tremors are so bad sometimes that his entire body > shakes. So what if I have to cut up his food, or if he drools, or > whatever. My love for him is not based on what he once was, a tall 6'2" > 185 lb man, who is very handsome, but for what he is now. Right now. > Still tall, still handsome, but with some physical problems manisfested > from the brain cell deterioration. Sometimes his speech is slurred and > sometimes I have to ask him to repeat his sentence, which he does gladly. > On the phone, especially in the evening when he is tired, his voice is > very weak and I can hardly hear him (we don't live together, but talk > often and see each other > often). I don't care about a trophy love, I want a person who understands > me and cares for me and can carry on a conversation(so far), and will let > me share my life with him as much as is possible. Marco, I wish you the > very best, and hope you find things that will keep your mind busy so you > won't dwell on negative things. Best to you. Jo Ann from Houston >