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> And finally, advice requested: > > This morning I had a conversation with a 55-year-old woman who has had PD, > if I remember correctly, since '96. She's on Requip and is still working > though she mentioned that symptoms are increasing(heart problems, > hypotension are also in her basket). I know exactly how she feels with the OH problem. I have parkinsonism and P.O.T.S. I wear prescribed compression panty hose 20/30's. The 30/40 compression I can't get on. I buy Juzo's. Confidence booster they hid cellulite and hold u up and in in the right places:) Yes I am bold. At first I thght- oh no Mama's family - grandma hose and I am only 35 (now I am 42). Well I took a different approach. I wear them proudly and found that they keep my feet from turning bluish or pooling in points of weight. They enabled me to be mobile longer because there is less fatigue in my legs leading to walking more leading to keeping the ever famous weight in a healthy range. With correct eating habits of course. Now this spouse thing! Just remember u are a human being and so is he. Ah yes finances.... U have an account in ur own name? Does he? Does he have a Post office Box? > Right now, she feels rather lost(don't we know that feeling). During the > holidays, her husband of 35 years made it very clear that he wanted no part > of her, After 35 years all of a sudden he wants no part of her...hmmm.... and she is not only frightened by the prospects of losing the > foundation > under her feet, she is terribly frightened that her only insurance which is > through her husband's job will be lost(she thinks he may not be working at > his job much longer). Ask the job for health insurance ? Can she stay at her job? Get an attorney fast. Most everytime I hear this not working and insurance theme, the person leaves the state and it is very hard to track them down. Once u do laws follow- Get an attorney. If the other says they no longer want u they most likely already consulted an attorney. Maybe try to think of the situation this way?? U have a neuro degenerative disease, and a spouse who after 35 years ups and leaves the ill spouse. The judge is not going to look at the healthy spouse kindly. I understand the law is factually based , but I have a feeling she won't loose everything if she gets the attorney now. I may be ill, wear compression hose, use a walker, wear leg braces sometimes, BUT I believe in myself. I didn't say infatuated (sp?). I went to counseling to combat this same feeling of what if my spouse leaves me?? I found that I am more independent emotionally now than when I was healthy. Noone is going to stripe me of my emotional security. Now I have leg braces. When I first got them I panicked. Then I saw this little blonde hair girl on the cover of a magazine with a skirt on proudly wearing her braces. I told the medical personal if she can wear them, I can. I wear them with short skirts too! Pants get tangled in the velcro. I told my husband if it helps and continues to make me walk, they are on. I was bedridden for alittle over 1 year. I love walking! walker, hose and braces. U may be asking what does this have to do with ur man leaving u?? Psych. Psych urslef into knowing that u are a valuable person. Financially get an individual account and an attorney:) I have no mom, one young adult person who is going to college out of state next year, can't drive, and pretty dependent on assistance now. I will survive. Was my life always like this?? No where near. Would I be afraid of being in my own apartment? Yes. I am physically dependent and would have to be in probably a nursing home not because of being alone. However, u appear physically more abled and in apartment buildings there are other to talk too so u can make new friends. Not easy, but obtainable. Seek counseling for that concern because that situation isn't so cut and dry. What was the name of that movie with the 3 wives who financially made it after years of non financial dedication?? Goldie Hawn, Bette Midler, and Dianne Keaton Not a hateful movie at all, I saw it as a way of turning lemons into lemonade. Maybe see a few funny movies too with some friends? Don't broadcast that u hired an attorney. Check all the accounts, life insurance beneficiaries changes? Sorry I just read "other than an attorney" Edith. COunseling once again helps tremendously when going through stressful change. Exercise with BP monitoring and docs recommendations. With money comes power, BUT education and self preserving brings a wealth of power and maintains it. nancy:)