Dabu-- I fully agree with those who have advised you to tell your mother as soon as possible about the sad death of your brother. You will know whether you can help her process it by bringing something back from the funeral--pictures, whatever might help to make it real, since she can't attend. You've had some good advice, and we all send our loving support. Camilla Flintermann Oxford,OH <[log in to unmask]> on the web at http://members.tripod.lycos.nl/genugten/flinterm.htm and also at http://www.geocities.com/camillahf/index.html And visit the CARE webring at http://www.crosswinds.net/~caregivers/index.html "Life is eternal: love is immortal; and death is only a horizon; and a horizon is nothing save the limit of our sight." ----Rossiter Worthington Raymond (1840-1918) ---------------------------------------------------------------------- To sign-off Parkinsn send a message to: mailto:[log in to unmask] In the body of the message put: signoff parkinsn