Vicky - I'm truly sorry you had to go through all that pain, misery and woe while you were growing up. I wonder though if you went with your husband and stayed in the back ground that you could satisfy yourself and still keep the peace. Just stay long enough for your sister and Mom to see you. I agree that the best revenge is to present a happy face (That's what Ivana Trump always said). The thing is, he knows what he did to you, and he may be just as hesitant to see you, as you are to see him. There is such a thing called ignoring a person, and you probably have a lovely back, so when you turn it to him, that's all he'll see. He'll get the message. Best wishes in whatever you decide. Jo Ann ---------------------------------------------------------------------- To sign-off Parkinsn send a message to: mailto:[log in to unmask] In the body of the message put: signoff parkinsn