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Jeff, your father must have been awful proud of you for you to write a tribute to dad. Dwelling on the good times you had is consoling. God bless. Ervin McCarthy ----- Original Message ----- From: "Jeff Bayard" <[log in to unmask]> To: <[log in to unmask]> Sent: Saturday, November 09, 2002 3:23 PM Subject: Re: Dad, Thanksgivings and yes, ER and PD/it does destroy your life, just wait and see > Rayilyn, yes, that hits home. I do not have PD, but Dad did. He was > diagnosed in > '99 and he was a medical doctor, M.D. > (http://dialforacure.com/html/company.html) > He was devastated, and he fought with all the resourses he had. His > condition was > not the normal with the physical dehabilitating happenings over many years, > but his > was a mental melt down. Folks that say "it takes a long time", well that > is plain false. > Dad passed in less than 3 years. And what really hurt, was that HE KNEW > what > was happening. Thats the thing, you know what is happening, but you can't do > much > about it, but pray, love, and suffer, and not always in that order. He did > all he could. > In the end days, from late December of 2000 to Jan 2001, and finally Feb 2, > 2001, > (http://www.tryondailybulletin.com/Obits/Obits.asp?ArticleID=1568) > he was going through the downward spiral, He was the best Dad, greatest > Physician, > and an awesome Husband to Mom. People that say "its not painful" are just > blind, and just > dont know. They need "educating", thats all. > People that make any kind of comment that "angers" you, they just don't > know. I know I will never understand the "core" of what you folks are > suffering, as I > do not have PD, but I know the pain of being a first hand witness to my own > Dad, > I still hurt today when I rehash the memories of the latter years. > I cannot dwell on that, or Dad would truly have an issue with that! Dad was > a disciplinarian, > (strict!), and very conservative, tedious, meticulous, and very focused all > his life. He believed in Duty, God, > Country, doing your best, following through, and humour, love, ...........If > he knew > I was "dwelling" on his last days, he would truly have a fit. > He would tell me, : "Jeff, remember the good days!, I love you, Jeff, and > dwell on the good > memories, remember the days when we talked, when we walked, when we loved > each other, > do not dwell on the bad, but the good, I await our reunion, stay the course, > fight the good fight!" > Like all the wonderful Thanksgivings we had! He called me "Foffy" when he > really wanted to > tell me he loved me. > I can see his face, his smile, his eyes, his stature, and I can feel his > embrace, whew! man-o-man, > what a Dad! > Thank-ya Jesus for the Dad I had! > Keep typing Rayilyn, thanks. > jeff > Help Find the Cure! > http://dialforacure.com > > > ----- Original Message ----- > From: "Rayilyn Brown" <[log in to unmask]> > To: <[log in to unmask]> > Sent: Saturday, November 09, 2002 4:12 PM > Subject: ER and PD/it does destroy your life, just wait and see > > > > To those of you writing about how PD has destroyed your life I, add my > > voice, which I am losing now. > > > > It is a real problem that the public does not understand what it really > does > > to MOST OF US. Unfortunately, those PWP who are able to work (and they > have > > every right to do so if they can) give an impression to the public that it > is > > not such a big deal and you have an "almost normal life', like I did when > I > > had ovarian cancer. > > > > When i was DX over 6 yrs ago a friend of my mother commented "at least > it's > > not painful", another,, "it takes a long time". I can't express my anger > > over those ignorant remarks, but that is what we are facing. It just > doesn't > > look too bad to others who don't know what it is like to shake eternally, > for > > only one symptom. > > > > I can't do anything anymore but wait for the end and correct my one-handed > > typing on the computer. Rayilyn > > > > ---------------------------------------------------------------------- > > To sign-off Parkinsn send a message to: > mailto:[log in to unmask] > > In the body of the message put: signoff parkinsn > > ---------------------------------------------------------------------- > To sign-off Parkinsn send a message to: mailto:[log in to unmask] > In the body of the message put: signoff parkinsn ---------------------------------------------------------------------- To sign-off Parkinsn send a message to: mailto:[log in to unmask] In the body of the message put: signoff parkinsn