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Hi Carol, You have my sympathy. I had to call in Adult Protective Services when my wife became so verbally abusive that I felt I was being pushed to suicide. She tried to make me sign over our assets (the house & stocks) and wanted me to "get out" or "die!" She refused to take me to the doctor or pick up my medicines. (She works in a pharmacy.) I feebily endured countless paranoid rages, accusing me of being the one who is abusive. Eventually, I didn't even have the energy to answer. Sometimes I just lay in my recliner, wept, and fought to maintain my sanity. She polarized our children making pizza, movies, clothes, haircuts,and video games contingent upon being disrespectful and abusive to me. All of a sudden there was abuse and neglect for being on "his side." After sixteen years of marriage,I didn't know there were sides. Fortunately,two of my five children continued to be respectful and helpful despite the intense social pressure. Social Services insisted that I be allowed to hire an aide to be with me two hours a day five days a week. Since the aide has come I have recovered my spirits and confidence. It is very hard to maintain ones dignity in such a situation, but sometimes in such a situation all you are left with is your dignity. Above all you must not let yourself be mannipulated into answering verbal abuse with verbal abuse in kind. This will be only used against you to justify further abuse. Remember it is useless and even dangerous to argue with a crazy person. Keep your dignity and your standards of human decency. I wish you all the best, and keep your sanity. Reaching out can restore hope and sanity. David >From: Carol Gray <[log in to unmask]> >Reply-To: Parkinson's Information Exchange Network ><[log in to unmask]> >To: [log in to unmask] >Subject: New home >Date: Tue, 4 Feb 2003 09:26:04 EST > >I am back on line and on the list after a month and since moving to an >apartment. >i had been living with my son and his family (in my house) and as my >disease >progressed and my daughter-in-law's dependency problems became worse >they became mentally and verbally abusive. Although I don't really feel >that >I should live alone (I fall a lot) I do not wish to live without dignity. >I >feel that >this is a common problem that we just don't talk about very much. I do >definitely >feel that no one understands our disease as well as we do and I hear that a >lot from other patients. Anyway I am glad to be "out" and "back"! > >carol gray > >---------------------------------------------------------------------- >To sign-off Parkinsn send a message to: >mailto:[log in to unmask] >In the body of the message put: signoff parkinsn _________________________________________________________________ The new MSN 8: smart spam protection and 2 months FREE* http://join.msn.com/?page=features/junkmail ---------------------------------------------------------------------- To sign-off Parkinsn send a message to: mailto:[log in to unmask] In the body of the message put: signoff parkinsn