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Dear Audrey & Carol, Cruel and selfish people self-justify their behavior. They never see themselves as evil or immoral or in violation of their vows and obligations. My wife's self-justification in her blatant rages is, "You made me this way," demonstrating a marginal awareness of her barbarity, which is unfortunately too weak to shame her into silence. You cannot reason with such a person to show kindness or even practicality. I've fruitlessly tried. Their cold hearts are fed by small internal flames that miser their warmth. There are no Scrooge-like revelations that sober them into being generous spirits no matter how many ghosts they might see. Keep your house in your name. Don't let them put their name on your bank account or credit card. Share your disbelief and dismay with someone who is generous enough of heart to care about you. Don't let the shock of the ingratitude vanquish you. Focus on those who the test of time demonstrate they are humanly good and caring. David >From: Audrey Skrzyniarz <[log in to unmask]> >Reply-To: Parkinson's Information Exchange Network ><[log in to unmask]> >To: [log in to unmask] >Subject: Re: New home >Date: Tue, 4 Feb 2003 15:09:02 -0800 > >Carol, I was planning to send a response to you concerning the terrible >treatment that you endured from your family in your house. If your >daughter-in-law had *dependency problems how did this excuse the family >that was yours? No matter what the situation, they lived in your house, >likely understanding at some level what that meant with your health >issues. I do not nor can understand how anyone can excuse abusive >behavior towards someone, as you, who deserves deep concern if not love. >It is good that you had the strength and foresight to leave before it >became worse. I feel so badly that anyone is treated as this; even a dog >would be treated better. This afternoon I read the post that David sent. >My anger is directed towards those that have mistreated you; a wife that >may have mental problems but may never be willing to accept mental >health help. Someone who is willing and does use her own children as her >weapon against someone whom she once said she loved... She can not use >the excuse that she doesn't know what she is doing can she? She is only >one of many that I have learned treat the important people in their >lives as this. I don't believe they have changed but use *stress or too >much to face* as their reasons for abuse. It is about greed, wanting >all, not just sharing. It is about meanness that has always been there, >and given an excuse is revealed. I don't know why it takes obvious >mistreatment for the authorities to step in and insist that common >decency and care be given as what you deserve as a human being? I think >that it is within the persons involved in a pwps life whether they care >or not-- whether their concern is for the other and not misdirected >towards themselves. The idea of cold doesn't only exist in temperature >does it? > >Best to you both, > >Audrey > >I have great respect for you both. You are true examples of strength!! > >Audrey > >---------------------------------------------------------------------- >To sign-off Parkinsn send a message to: >mailto:[log in to unmask] >In the body of the message put: signoff parkinsn _________________________________________________________________ Add photos to your e-mail with MSN 8. Get 2 months FREE*. http://join.msn.com/?page=features/featuredemail ---------------------------------------------------------------------- To sign-off Parkinsn send a message to: mailto:[log in to unmask] In the body of the message put: signoff parkinsn