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Thanks so much for the invitation to email you...I really appreciate it! I am stuck in a bad place...My mother has too much money at the moment....but will have nothing in the spring (we will use her money to build a small cottage here because we are only two blacks away and all of her neighbors will still be the same). She and my father had quite a lot of money 6 years ago and it's almost all gone because of the caregiving costs and her copays for huge amounts of drugs. She is very with it and can also be bizarre at times. We have an elder care attorney, and my mother is almost ready for Medicaid "on paper" because things were signed over to me a long time ago. But medicaid doesn't provide for a full time caregiver. Our society doesn't provide for the elderly who are chronically ill. She is also with it enough that she wouldn't stand for a caregiver who isn't well educated and interesting and able to discuss foreign films with her...etc...(I can't really blame her...). Her caregiver now is a doctor from the Republic of Georgia. A brilliant woman who is like a part of our family. But my mother either has a great time with her or criticizes her for making too many rules (like needing the walker or not going downstairs to the basement...or not being able to iron or use a sharp knife...). Her caregiver is only the messenger but my mother gets furious. Another problem we are having is that my mother is seeing a geriatric therapist that I found so she can discuss all of her losses and try to get skills for coping. Lately she has turned her sessions into a place to discuss the heaviness of her relationships with her mother, my late father....(She's done this in therapy before) years ago). She has become very angry and is now even more difficult to deal with. She is also using her depression as an excuse to act out. I called her therapist and told her that I think we need to turn this around by having her discuss positive affirmations and skills about how to take care of herself today and tomorrow (in terms of being part of the world and finding things that give her pleasure. Her therapist won't tell her what to talk about (I understand that) but my mother is now emotionally dysfunctional and furious and ruining all of her close relationships with us. Sorry to dump this on you...but I am so upset and don't know where to turn. Do you have any other suggestions? Thanks, Linda ---------------------------------------------------------------------- To sign-off Parkinsn send a message to: mailto:[log in to unmask] In the body of the message put: signoff parkinsn