you may not be crazy about this suggestion but here goes....perhaps you might consider some counseling for you so you can let some of her behavior and comments go...it's very easy to say but not so easy to do...trite you say...not really..if you can get some of your anger and frustration out, not take her comments personally and recognize her limitations, you might even find that you can achieve great personal pleasure in your caregiving role. she is not likely to change considering what she has happening to her. but....you will benefit enormously and have more positive days now and great memories later....please consider signing up for the CARE list i forwarded to you earlier. best maxine ---------------------------------------------------------------------- To sign-off Parkinsn send a message to: mailto:[log in to unmask] In the body of the message put: signoff parkinsn