" Chronic disease for the caretaker and caregiver is not fought with heroic battles but small sufferings, repeated embarrassments, forgetfulness and confusion, repeated indignities, boring tasks that take time and patience. I am impressed by our acceptance of what must be done with the good life we still live, within increasing limitations, without heroism. Age and the ailments that follow do not demand heroism but day-by-day, hour-by-hour acceptance, an unsung virtue we should celebrate. We are not heroes, but we have learned to accept limitations and construct a productive life within its borders." SOURCE: Boston Globe, MA http://tinyurl.com/yrpjc According to this article posted by Murray yesterday, one should learn to accept his/her lot in life. I find this approach to my suffering unacceptable. Because, once you accept your lot, then there is a tendency not to do anything about it. One will give up the fight and the will to live. I like the advice of Dr. Lieberman. "Fight like a tiger and think like a fox." Even if you lose, don't go down without a fight. One should take acceptance with a sense of challenge and fight for a better life. Do something about it instead of succumbing to it with a defeatist mentality. Learn more about the problem and try to improve teh situation. Always attempt at improving your life and learn to live the best way you can. Raj ***** ---------------------------------------------------------------------- To sign-off Parkinsn send a message to: mailto:[log in to unmask] In the body of the message put: signoff parkinsn