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Yes, guilt and rejection have been added to Kubler-Ross's original five steps. It is always important to point out that the steps don't necessarily all occur or occur in a specific order with each individual. A healthy acceptance is the goal of the grief process. Carole Menser, MA ----- Original Message ----- From: "Wenwolf" <[log in to unmask]> To: <[log in to unmask]> Sent: Thursday, April 14, 2005 9:11 AM Subject: Re: Grieving > Jo Ann: > There are different theories. I know the 5 stage theory: > Stages of Grief-Denial, Anger, Bargaining, Depression, Acceptance > > I seem to have skipped the first 4 steps in dealing with my husband's > Parkinsons. I believe they are a waste of time, however, I know that > many people won't relate to that statement. > > Denial - Why deny? People always ask "Why me?", but really "Why NOT me?" > - everyone has problems. > > Anger - For me, it does no good, and only takes away from my life. I try > not to waste my time on anger. I understand that there may be some who > find strength in anger, but for me it is poisonous, and clouds my view > of the facts. > > Bargaining - You would have to believe in a higher power to enter this > stage. Interestingly, many people who never believed before will, during > moments of grief, take this step. I already believe in a higher power, > but I believe that I don't know what is "best". There is a larger > picture that I cannot see - life is not all about ME. I trust that > things happen for a reason, and while I will fight to improve things, I > don't make bargins. > > Depression - OK, there are moments of this. But again, I try not to > waste what time I have on depression. I do realize there are times (EX: > chemical imbalance) that depression cannot be controlled. > > Acceptance - This is the step that makes things more bearable, if while > accepting you maintain hope for the future. > > Hope this helps! > Wendy > > -----Original Message----- > > > Does anyone know the 7 steps in the grieving process? I can only > remember 3, but if you know, please write me and let me know. It's very > important. Thanks. Jo Ann > > ---------------------------------------------------------------------- > To sign-off Parkinsn send a message to: mailto:[log in to unmask] > In the body of the message put: signoff parkinsn > ---------------------------------------------------------------------- To sign-off Parkinsn send a message to: mailto:[log in to unmask] In the body of the message put: signoff parkinsn