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Liz, it is so good of you to stand by your friend the way you have, My best friend just died in Dec of osteocarcinoma and because of my PD I couldn't see her, but we did talk on the phone about dying. I recounted to her how I had nearly died during my 2nd surgery for arterio-venous fistulas (I'm also an ovarian cancer survivor) Ii told her I felt a great sense of peace and lack of fear and that when I had cancer I figured I would give it my best shot and the rest was not up to me. It is so hard to know what to say, but in her last emails she always ended with "I love you" I will never get over losing her, she was younger than me. It brings tears to my eyes to write this, but I think your love and caring for her is all we have. Good for you and thank you, Ray PWP 60/69 ----- Original Message ----- From: "Elizabeth Menten" <[log in to unmask]> To: <[log in to unmask]> Sent: Thursday, May 26, 2005 9:31 AM Subject: End Stage perhaps > Hello, > > I have just subscribed to this support group on behalf of two special > friends of mine: my childhood ballet teacher who appears to be in the > final > stages of Parkinson's and her husband who is being torn apart by it. I am > flying out of state next week to see them both. > > The issue for her has been eating. She no longer appears to get sustenance > from food and fades away until they introduce some nutritional fluid > through > a vein. Then she temporarily perks up. Her son is a doctor and so he has > felt a strong need to figure it out. Her husband is caught here. He > suspects > it is time to let her go but doesn't want to do that in ignorance. > > They have been looking for answers for weeks. It appears that the son is > ready to surrender to the limits of what he can do. Perhaps the worst is > over. Maybe not since now it is time for the hospice. > > My former teacher knows I am coming though I won't get there until next > Wed. > By then she may not be conscious but I will be glad to be there all the > same. I thought I would bring some music we both loved. > > Well, I guess I haven't really asked any questions but if anyone has any > particular insight I might share with her husband, that would be terrific. > I > will tell him about this support group and bring my laptop with me down > there in case he finds it is something that he would appreciate. Thanks > for > listening. > > Liz > > ---------------------------------------------------------------------- > To sign-off Parkinsn send a message to: > mailto:[log in to unmask] > In the body of the message put: signoff parkinsn ---------------------------------------------------------------------- To sign-off Parkinsn send a message to: mailto:[log in to unmask] In the body of the message put: signoff parkinsn