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Dear Sami, Mary Ann is right. it is very important that your friend be assessed for depression and treated if necessary. I am concerned about your welfare. Your kindness is touching and admirable and your friend is lucky to have you. However, I see a risk for you. If your friend should again attempt or even complete suicide, you might feel a sense of responsibility and your own mental health could be in jeopardy. I wish I had some brilliant suggestions for you, but I don't. I can only say that if I were in your shoes I think I would contact a social services agency to seek professional guidance on dealing with this difficult situation. Good luck, Kathleen 2009/8/21 Sami <[log in to unmask]> > Hi Mary Ann, > > I'm sure it was included in the tests he started. Unfortunately, he > thought > he knew more than his physicians and has refused to go to any doctor > whatsoever since before I began helping him. He now is convinced he is > turning to stone and other than listening to him and doing his errands, I > have given up making suggestions since he then turns away from me too. > > Sami > > > Sami, one of the first signs of PD is depression. I'm wondering if your > friend is being treated for the disorder? > -------- > Mary Ann > www.bentwillowfarm.org > > ----- Original Message ----- > > From: "Sami" <[log in to unmask]> > To: <[log in to unmask]> > Sent: Monday, August 17, 2009 4:39 AM > Subject: Re: a thought > > Moneesha, > > The Christopher H. Brewer beatitudes blew me away and brought me to tears. > May I borrow this e-mail so I can take it to a friend who cannot see the > positive side not only of his illness but life itself? This has caused him > to attempt suicide twice. I have only known him since October 2008. My goal > has been to give him 'goals' to reach. We made it past Halloween; then > Thanksgiving; Christmas; the NewYear; Valentine's Day; my birthday etc > etc > His negativity has been wearing me down and I hadn't realized I have been > losing my 'empathy and compassion' until I read your e-mail to Dr. Chew. I > have to stop dragging myself to his house....and go with a happy smile; I > have to drive him around town....and stop thinking about what else I could > be doing; I have to cut his hair.....and quit griping to myself because he > s embarrassed to have his ex-barber see him now. There are many other > things I could add, but I think you get the idea. At first I thought he > could use the beatitudes but then, after reading it many times, I came to > the realization that I was the one who needed them back! > > > > Sami > > > > -------Original Message------- > > > > From: Moneesha Sharma > Date: 8/15/2009 11:25:16 PM > To: [log in to unmask] > > Subject: Re: a thought > > Dear Dr. Chew, > > How right you are about education, but what is also needed is empathy and > Compassion. I am posting here something that was posted by a fellow CG on > CARE. His wife, who is a PD patient now fairly advanced, had saved it on > Their computer. I think you might find it useful - > > > Blessed are you that never bids us "hurry up" and more blessed are you that > Do not snatch our tasks from our hands to do them for us, for often we need > Time rather than help. > > > Blessed are you who take time to listen to defective speech, for you help > us > > To know that if we persevere, we can be understood. > > > Blessed are you who walk with us in public places and ignore the stares of > Strangers, for in your companionship we find havens of relaxation. > > > Blessed are you who stand beside us as we enter new ventures, for our > Failures will be outweighed by times we surprise ourselves and you. > > > Blessed are you who ask for our help, for our greatest need is to be needed > > > Blessed are you when by all these things you assure us that the thing that > Makes us individuals is not our peculiar muscles, nor our wounded nervous > System, but the God-given self that no infirmity can confine. > > > Blessed are those who realize that I am human and don't expect me to be > Saintly just because I am disabled. > > > Blessed are those who understand that sometimes I am weak and not just lazy > > > Blessed are those who pick things up without being asked. > > > Blessed are those who forget my disability of the body and see me as a > whole > > Person, unique and complete, and not as "half" and one of God's mistakes. > > > Blessed are those who love me just as I am without wondering what I might > Have been like. > > > Blessed are my friends on whom I depend, for they are the substance and joy > Of my life!!!! > > "A true handicap is what we don't do with what we have, not what we can't > do > > With what we don't have." > > Christopher H. Brewer > > > > All the best in the wonderful work you are doing. > > Moneesha > > This email was cleaned by emailStripper, available for free from > http://www > papercut.biz/emailStripper.htm-------Original Message------- > > > ---------------------------------------------------------------------- > To sign-off Parkinsn send a message to: mailto: > [log in to unmask] > In the body of the message put: signoff parkinsn > ---------------------------------------------------------------------- To sign-off Parkinsn send a message to: mailto:[log in to unmask] In the body of the message put: signoff parkinsn