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Ray, I was alarmed when I read your post. Your caregiver's actions are bordering on abuse. It is time to find someone else to meet your needs. In this economy there are plenty of people looking for a stable job. Think about contacting the Area Agency on Aging or even local health caregiver organizations to find new help. Considering your caregiver's actions, you might find her negative behavior escalating instead of decreasing. Good luck and God bless. -------- Mary Ann (CG Jamie 68/28 with PD, died 11/20/07) www.bentwillowfarm.org > Hi NK and fellow Parkies and CGs: > > I've had company the last few days and unable to do computer work. I'm > completely worn out. > > I'm also having problems with my "caregiver". For sometime now she has > been very annoyed and angry with me for my voice problems. Because I am > not screaming bloody murder she assumes PD is like getting old. If I > raise my voice she reacts like I am angry with her even though I have > explained that I "strangle" when I try to speak. I typed her a message > on the computer this week. The trouble is she is not a very smart or > sophisticated person and is not going to change. She will never > understand Parkinson's. > > I'm putting this message on the PIEN in an effort to get advice from > everyone. > > There are other problems too (last Christmas she threw out my mothers > ashes), the destruction of my clothes with lint, wrinkles, putting white > and dark colors together is reaching a critical mass and she denies any > responsibility and she told me I should buy different kinds of clothes. > She left me for over an hour at the manicurist while she ate lunch last > week. I don't mind her always eating on the job, but this was too much. > She never answered her phone when the proprietors called her several > times. > > She lives with her daughter, son-in-law and is part-time babysitter for > their 3 young children. They both work for Southwest Airlines and she > never knows what day she will work for me. She has a hectic life and I > try to accommodate her. I store her things in my extra closets for her. > > Any suggestions would be appreciated. She has good qualities and it is > not easy to find someone. She has worked for me for 5 years. In the > beginning I made a list of chores and left her alone. > > These problems have grown - as my PD has gotten worse. the clothes thing > happened a few at a time. eating on job has increased - she used to take > me out to eat and I bought her meals. not answering her phone is a few > instances at a time. Not wanting to make a big deal out of little things, > they have accumulated. > > Ray > > Rayilyn Brown > Director AZNPF > Arizona Chapter National Parkinson Foundation > [log in to unmask] > > ---------------------------------------------------------------------- > To sign-off Parkinsn send a message to: > mailto:[log in to unmask] > In the body of the message put: signoff parkinsn ---------------------------------------------------------------------- To sign-off Parkinsn send a message to: mailto:[log in to unmask] In the body of the message put: signoff parkinsn