My mother is the primary care-taker for my father, who was diagnosed with PD about 14 years ago. She attends support group meetings, reads tons of medical literature, and accompanies him to the doctor. Mom has set herself up as the family "expert" on PD, which is fine. However, we kids are finding it very difficult to see how Mom is constantly on Dad's case. When we get together for family gatherings, she watches him like a hawk and makes constant belittling comments. "Don't let yourself slump in your chair that way." "You can't eat anything until your meds kick in." "That has protein, eat this instead." "You're slurring your words, slow down." The really frightening thing is that she probably talks to him that way all of the time and not just when we are at family gatherings. I realize that she is with Dad every day, all day, and therefore knows his needs better than any of us kids. When we try to make light of the situation ("It's a holiday, we're all eating things we shouldn't!"), she gets angry that we kids are trying to "undermine" her expertese. Since the holidays are coming up and we will be seeing lots of each other, I was wondering if anyone out there has experienced something similiar to this and how you dealt with it. Thanks for your support! Jane Metz, [log in to unmask]