By request I am posting a reprint of Jerry Finch,s letter "Dear Doctor" Dear Dr. _______, We've known each other for some time now. Even though I have to pay just to talk with you, I sense that you have some empathy for what I am going through. Some doctors seem in too much of a hurry to get rid of me and go on to other patients. You've listened to my complaints with a sparkle in your eye and a pat on the shoulder. For that I am thankful, for that one touch means a more than you could ever know. There are some things I find it very difficult to talk about when I'm in your examining room. With all the tongue depressors and hypodermic needles and stuff that you need to poke and probe the body, little things like thoughts and doubts seem insignificant in comparison, at least while I'm there. But you see, doc, I live inside of me, so it's hard to make those insignificant things go away, particularly at three in the morning, when I'm standing in the kitchen looking out at the blackness beyond the window. I'm alone, doc. Oh, yes, the spouse and kids are around. Yes, I have friends that drop by, but when I say "alone" I mean that I feel this disease, this illness, way inside of me and I see all the other people that don't have it, and I wonder why. I'm different in a physical way. If we had a roomful of people and all the healthy people had to stand on one side, I'd stand alone, me and a few others like me. It's that kind of alone, doc. And I'm afraid, doc. Oh, I know about how important positive attitude is and I smile and act tough and all that, but remember, I'm talking about three in the morning feelings, in the kitchen, staring out into a black night. I wish I knew what next year will bring, the next five years. How bad will this disease get? What will life be like? I'm afraid of little things, the symptoms of this disease. Tomorrow is like the darkness outside, just beyond the window. And I feel helpless, doc. Like most people, I've spen my life having power over things. The car, the grass on my lawn, the words on the computer screen, I control all of that. I have no control over this disease. None. Together we can fight the results, but we can't do anything about the cause. Incurable, that's the word you used. Helpless, that's what I'm feeling. Something within me is out of control and nothing I can do will stop it or make it go away. So understand, doc, when you get through looking in my ears and thumping on my back, when you're done with the prescription pad and you close the folder, understand how much that twinkle in your eye and the pat on the shoulder really means to me. I know you can't cure the physical problems. I understand that you get frustrated, too. But the loneliness, the fear, the helplessness? Just knowing that you're beside me makes all the difference in the world. So that's what I really mean when I say, "Thank you". Thank you for the kindness, for the caring, for the smile, for the touch. Thank you for helping me help myself. Thank you for being there, for being my doctor. Sincerely, (J.F.) ED H