I'm new to this list so you may have talked about this already. I've just read Rosalyn Carter's new book on caregiving--I think it's Helping You Help Others (?). I found it really helpful; it focuses solely on the caregiver; it really seems to have a sense of the stresses involved in that, and it includes some very practical and well as some helpful philosophical help. I really recommend this book. Peace, Judith Judith A Guttman "...we are wound Washington DC with mercy round and round [log in to unmask] as if with air" -- Hopkins