Dear Larry and Family: Can't really offer any advice on what to do, but it seems several other people have had good suggestions. I can only tell you that my family is going through a very similar sit- uation right now and I will certainly pass along anything we find that helps. I've only been on this list a few weeks but it has become my way of coping...a 24-hour support group loaded with ideas and information gained by real-life experience! Please keep us informed about your dad. Betti Adams Betti S. Adams [log in to unmask]