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Hi - I am a child of a Parkinsonian or was - Daddy died Aug. 3. I live in AZ - he resided in KY - mom was his caregiver. You can help her by reading as much as you can about estate planning to protect her if and when you father needs to have skilled or merely custodial care in a nursing home. You can help by keeping in touch with his neurologist, physical therapist, etc. When visiting, offer to do an inservice at the local support group or nursing home to share your information. Educate those caring for your father. Mom would send me information she couldn't understand and didn't have time to read about meds, insurance, veterans, medicare, medicaid. PD and ALZ is a family disease - start now to monitor your mom's financial health . "Spending down" is necessary for your mom to receive the best care without worry that there will be nothing left for her. It seems cold but love is not enough. I know. Daddy is gone but mom had her house in trust -BE SURE TO CHECK YOUR STATE LAWS REGARDING healthcare and assets! She had prearranged burial plans, we waded through A LOT of paper for veterans pension while Daddy was in the nursing home including spousal support. She walked a half mile every day to the nursing home to care for Daddy. Stage V was horrible. She prayed. You will have to be the strong one and educate yourself - when it's all over then you collapse. My heart goes out to you.