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Hi all! My husband and I just got back from a visit to his parents (father, 88 has pd, stage III, mother 82, primary caregiver is EXTRAORDINARY ANXIOUS) in Florida. We went down there mainly concerned about him, but he is coping well and his mood is great. We found that the mom is what we really are worried about. She is physically healthy but frail. But overwhelmingly anxious depressed(?), won't let anyone do anything--clean a dish, pack a box--"You're doing it wrong, it will break, you didn't come down to... etc." and overreacts almost to the point of tears, (but not quite) to any incident from not chosing a pork chop she cooked, to a leak in the roof to night lights etc, with the same crisis reaction. Part of this is (I think) stress and exhaustion self-imposed by her self-imposed rigor of caregiving. The rest? Highly neurotic, dementia(?), very scary. They are not ready for our intevention. (?) suggested many things, including a physical and telling the MD but nothing "took." Bought a caregiver book for ourselves, which was nice but not enough info. Any suggestions. PLEASE!! Maryellen [log in to unmask]