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Hi Everyone, I am so glad that I aired my feeling here instead of with my mother-in-law. I received some very good replies that helped me to understand why sometimes she feels the way she does, and I just cried when I read "To Darlene and Other Caregivers". One person wrote me and said maybe she's demanding because she feels like she's loosing control of her life. I almost didn't send my post but changed my mind because I thought the people who have PD would be better to understand how she feels, If you want answers why not get them right from the horses mouth. I am also on the Hepatitis list and there are lots of spouses who do not have the disease that ask us for help. Should they give a spouse a hug or a swift kick in the pants? Although I think they may be watching what they say to a degree, I don't know. Also they want to learn more about the disease. A caregivers list is probably a good idea, maybe one to relate to all different types of diseases. Caregivers as a whole. Also on the Hepatitis list are people who are sick themselves and are cargivers to another person who is sick, which e probably is the case here as well. Maybe we could toggle back and forth between the two if need be. How do others feel about it? BTW - Everything is good again, I'm so glad I vented here instead of to her. My mother-in-law gave us some groceries yesterday - out of her freezers. She really does try in alot of ways, and she has said "Thank You" to my husband and I many times. I guess we can all have a bad day. She is not only my mother-in-law, she is my friend. Take Care Debra mharper@worldgate Joyce wrote > >As I read your post tonight, I am wondering if it would be possible to set up >a list like this for caregivers. I think a lot of us feel that if we really >say what we think about our emotions concerning our PD person, that we will >upset the PD patients who are also reading the list (although as many have >said, it helps the patient understand some of our frustrations). > Barbara wrote > Just because we have pd doesn't mean that we want the entire >focus on us...we KNOW we need our caregivers and we KNOW we need our >caregivers to stay well themselves. The people who live in the same >house with us sometimes know us almost as well as we know ourselves.