Jacklyn-- it certainly sounds as if your mom should get some help in caring for your dad. While she may feel she needs/want to "do it all" she must realize that eventually,if she wears herself out, there will be no one to care for him! Perhaps, if you've not tried to talk with his neurologist or primary care doc, that would be helpful--he/she might even "prescribe" certain kinds of help, which mom could accept from an"authority". I hope you will hear from other CGs with suggestions--don't give up! And do take care of yourself, too-- Camilla Flintermann,CG for Peter,78/6+ Oxford,OH<[log in to unmask]>