To Linda in Missouri--welcome to the list, and I hope it is helpful to you and your parents. Since you wrote about your mother's inability to seek outside help, I wonder if you might want to join the CARE list on her behalf and send her some of those posts? To do so, send this message: [log in to unmask] SUBscribe CARE (your first and last names) You will receive info about the list, and included will be the "Caregivers' Bill of Rights" which it seems your mother needs to read! :-) Camilla Flintermann,CG for Peter 78/7, Oxford,OH [log in to unmask]