George Lussier wrote:
>
> Dear Mark,
> I'm likely on shakey ground talking to you this way. I nean I don't
> have a wife and kids so I don't have your responsability.Lord only knows
> that I have enough trouble taking care of myself. But Ithink some where
> down the road when your rage and profound sadness ease off a bit you may
> wish to try out some positive thinking. Now my saying that might tick you
> off and that's OK but when you mentioned your kids and all you won't be
> able to do with them because of your physical limits it got me to thinking
> It must be a wonderful feeling to have a wife and kids.
>
> Your kids are going to love you no matter how you physically appear.
>
> Kids have a way of wanting to know the inner man not the shell in
> which we come.
>
> I know that it will be frustrating not to be able to toss a ball or
> to teach your kids how to
> dance but if you can teach them to love, how to develope their
> values, how to get along
> with others...I'm sure you get my drift.
>
> I've worked as a clinical social worker for a number of years and
> I've meet a few hundred kids
> who would have given anything to have a father who could
> listen to them, protect them,and
> make them laugh. A father who could express his feelings
> without shame and,mind you, most
> of these kids I knew were from intact families. They had
> fathers but they didn't.
> SO, Mark, if I were in your shoes I would start thinking about the
> things I could do with my
> kids and not what I can't do. Besides who knows there may well
> be some really good
> therapy or even a cure just around the next turn in the road.
> And these are my thoughts
>
> george[[log in to unmask]]
> Comm. of Mass.
>
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I whole heartedly agree with you George.
Mark
As a father of two mostly grown children (daughter 19 and son
21) who was unable to participate in most of their childhood because of
my job (US Navy submarine service), I feel that your children will
understand your limitations and enjoy the time you spend with them as
long as you make eaqch moment as special as possible.
It sounds like your indulging in some self pity, been there,
done that, and got the tee-shirt, don't waste your time it does not
HELP. It's far better to use that energy to think of ways/things to do
with your children and do them.
Aloha
Pat Reilly (40/4)
Honolulu, Hi
