Dear Wanda-- I'm glad you found the PD list, even if the time is such a difficult one for your family--there has been a lot of recent discussion of the NH question on the sublist for caregivers of PWPs, and if you'd like to join that list I think you'd find support and understanding for the pain you feel now. To join, send just this: [log in to unmask] SUBscribe CARE (your first and last names) Information will be sent to you. (These instructions were posted here not long ago, and are repeated regularly--any CGs are welcome!) Camilla Flintermann,CG for Peter,78/7,Ohio [log in to unmask]