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To all Members It is Saturday evening, my wife is in Detroit and my son who lives with us and I are at home. It has been so peaceful inthis house for the past week. I have really enjoyed the break .Received 42 responses of support, advice, suggestions from all of you. I wish I could respond to all of you individually. If I miss some questions so please forgive me. (((((((((((1. YOUR WIFE'S DOCTOR: He may have a great bedside manner, but when was the last time you saw "BEDSIDE MANNER" listed in the yellow pages as a medical specialty? I can' t imagine any doctor responding to the question, "Are we treating her for Parkinson's?" by replying, "Possibly." I know your wife refuses to change doctors. But I see little hope for a solution until you get her to agree to at least see someone else for one consultation. Sad as it may seem that my wife only likes doctors with bedside manners. Her comfort zone with those doctors increases to the point where she can overlook mistakes. That does not mean that we will not change doctors, but you are right it will be hard to convince her. In my calling around I am now finding that several patients recently left him our Neuro and his common method of operating is to dispense a lot of drugs.)))))))) (((((((((((2. YOUR WIFE'S ATTITUDE: I found several telling statements in your letter. "My wife replied she needs the medications to live." . . . "My wife has always been sensitive to medication." . . . "If she has a bad day, she will blame it on the new drug." . . . "DOC: We have tried you on all the anti-depressants and you claim to have side effects. WIFE: Well, let's try Effexor." .. "Next visit, another symptom and some other medication.")))))))))) ((((((((((((((Reading those statements edited together paints a picture for me. Henry, have you considered that your wife may be addicted to medical treatment? (There's a proper medical name for it. Sorry, I can't think of it now. People with Munchausen Syndrome have the same problem but transfer it to others, such as a child.) Your wife is sensitive to medications, claims medications keep her alive and visits a physician regularly and tells him what drug to prescribe. Seems like a pattern to me. Have you ever discussed this aspect of your wife's behavior with a competent psychiatrist?))))))))))))))))) Yes Stan, you are right on. The children and I have realized that she constantly reads medical books or articles and has suddenly developed a need to see a doctor for the disease she projects she has or which which she read about. As I said earlier in one of my communications, we will try to get her to a psychiatrist. Her regular doctor also has suggested on many occasions I just learned without success. Since she has told me so many times that I need a psychiatrist I will ask her to come with me. (((((((((((((Camilla --asked what our plan is?? I have discussed this with the children as of this week, and we have temporarily agreed to sit down with her when she returns, as a family and make it a must. I do not think that either my wife or I can continue living under present condition.)))))))))))) (((((((((((((CHRONIC FATIGUE SYNDROME. It virtually incapacitates the victim. Extreme weakness, no energy, unable to perform the simplest tasks without becoming exhausted. After that, she found a doctor who recognized CFS as a legitimate illness and was able to help her anytime it returned. (Many physicians do not know about CFS or recognize it as legitimate.)))))))))))) When my wife first came down with the illness and before the medical profession hung their hat on (MG) Myasthenia Gravis, they did look for CFS and ruled it out. In all fairness she has many PD symptoms, except for the tremor--Stan ((((((((((((((Why does the Dr. keep renewing the meds? Vicodin is very habit forming and if you find a PDR and read it you will see.)))))))))))))))) He actually thinks that the medication does no harm. He is of course trying to passify my wife-- Nancy (((((((((((((((Maybe it's time you have a little talk....honey, I am very concerned with your health and I love you so very much,....I hate to see you suffering this way....don't you think it's time to consult another Doctor or another type of Doctor for a second opinion.))))))))))))))) Yes, I will. I have tried it before with neg. results, but I will have to insist on it.--Nancy (((((((((((((Does she drink diet pop or use diet products? I had the case of Nutrasweet poisoning...see I would never had dreamed that diet coke could be killing me..))))))))))))))) Yes, she only uses diet products including Nutrasweet for all her sweeteners--.Nancy ((((((((((((((((If she wasn't always the personality she is now, you've got to keep trying until you find out what the problem is.))))))))))))))))))))))))) No Nancy, I have seen a total change in her personality from passive to aggressive, from calm to nervous (Hyper) from forgiving to unforgiving from somewhat of a positive thinker to a total negative thinker, suspicious and the list goes on. (((((((((((((((Did she not plan ahead and take enough to the artane??? She refilled all her medication accept she overlooked the the Artane. Yes she does overdose (my opinion) on the other drugs. :You see the doctor does not track how often she fills the 30 day prescription. When she tells him that she only takes 3 pills a day he believes her. I then show him that she uses 150 in 30 days and his only remark to my wife was that she should cut down.)))))))))))))) Sorry for the length and I know I have not answered all the questions, so please forgive me. Henry Guttentag