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Jack - I'd like to add to others' comments that if you don't tell your friends and children, that makes your wife your only support group, and that's a horrible position to put her in. My husband did that for something like 12 years, and as his condition progressed, it became increasingly difficult for us both. I might add that about the time he was diagnosed, the same symptoms that led him to see a doctor in the first place became noticeable to others. However, he had created such a wall or silence around himself and the subject that none of his friends or family had the temerity to approach him directly - they asked me instead. So what we ended up with was this little conspiracy of silence, which did none of us any good. I hope you'll think about what I've said before you decide to continue with this path you've chosen. Give your friends and family a chance to show their support and caring - which does not mean pity - and give your wife a break! If she has health problems already, having to bear this burden all alone isn't doing her any good. Once you've talked to others about it, I think you'll feel as if a weight has lifted from your shoulders. I will add that telling an employer is another kettle of fish - but unless that's a consideration, do tell your family and friends. Margie