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Hello, my name is Cary. I just joined the list, and I'd like to thank you all for your inspiring and informative e-mail. My parents live in New Hampshire. My father was diagnosed with Parkinson's over ten years ago, a little while after he retired. His "brand" of Parkinson's affects his movement and his mind. My mother cared for him as long as she could. When she decided to move him into the assisted living wing of a nursing home about 2 years ago, I moved back to New Hampshire from San Francisco with my lover so that I could spend more time with my father and the rest of my family. I live in the same town as my brother and sister, about an hour away from the city my parents live in. I see my parents about once a week. My father, like most with Parkinsons, has his good hours and his bad hours. Even before he had Parkinsons it was difficult for him to express his feelings. The disease is hard on everyone, but it's the hardest on him. I wish he could tell us how he feels, but he can't or won't. We are a close family and usually get along well. Yet the strain of the years with Parkinsons take their toll. The decision to put my father in a nursing home was a difficult one for my mother, but at home alone with my father she was becoming desperate and often abusive. We kids weren't happy with the decision, but we have come to realize that she wasn't able to take care of him herself any more. Most of my parents' friends disapprove of my mother putting my father in a nursing home - yet they rarely if ever visit him. After all of their harsh judgements, there is no one who has done more for him or who spends more time with him than her - except, of course, for the nursing home staff. There is anger and resentment, guilt and anguish in all of us, along with love and tenderness. At this point my father can get out with a walker, and he should have a wheelchair nearby in case of freezing. He really needs full-time nursing care. My parents are thinking of planning a trip to Europe for a few days. There are thousands of details to arrange. Does anyone have any experience making travel arrangements for tourists with special needs? Thanks for any advice.